A Tribute to Anthony Tyson Seabrook
This morning I woke up, checked my messages, and found out that an old friend from high school passed away. Anthony Tyson Seabrook—we called him “Tyson”—left this world last night. Even as I write this, I have a hard time wrapping my mind around what happened. He was so full of life. When he walked into a room, you could feel it. He was the kind of guy you want in your corner if something was about to go down.
I haven’t seen Tyson in years. We grew up in New Jersey. I knew him from our time together in Army JROTC. After high school, I moved to Virginia (and now I live in South Carolina). Tyson moved to Indianapolis, Indiana. I talked to him a few years ago on the phone. It was like being transported through a time-warp to an earlier time in my life. We picked up right where we left off.
My sister lives in Indiana, and for some time I have thought that when I get to Indianapolis, we would catch up. In the meantime, I have kept up with him on Facebook. He was constantly posting pictures of adventures with his kids. A blind man could see his devotion to his family.
A week ago he posted a meme that read: “One day you will wake up and there won’t be anyone left to take to practice.” What a great thought about treasuring the time you have now before it is too late.
His last post was of his wife. She is beaming in the picture and the caption was: “Lunch date with my wife and NO KIDS or Arguing……!!!!!!!” That date was time well spent.
Two days later, he is gone. He died of a rare heart issue—an aortic infection. He was two years younger than me. He should not have been taken so soon.
Death has a way of jolting us—demanding perspective when we lose focus on what matters. We get caught up in our day-to-day lives. Meetings, appointments, and paying the bills gives us a certain near-sightedness that prevents us from seeing things that really matter.
Yesterday, I was complaining about the rain at my kids’ soccer practice and I was grumpy about a bit of indigestion. Yesterday, Tyson was in surgery, fighting for his life.
What would you do differently if today was your last day? Do you have peace with God? Have you spent your days loving your family so well that they have no doubt that they are well-loved? Have you spent your life on that which matters? Or, have you lost your focus, just trying to make it to the weekend?
None of us are guaranteed any more time on this earth than we have already spent. Thank you, Tyson, for your example. For me, your life will live on as a constant reminder to focus on what matters.
If you read this, and you have been moved to help his family with the funeral expenses, you can donate to his widow:
6131 E. Edgewood Ave.
They have also begun a Paypal account: Noahsbattle@yahoo.com
Dr. Darin Gerdes is an Associate Professor of management in the School of Business at Charleston Southern University.
All ideas expressed on www.daringerdes.com are his own.